For Men

547-800Do you think she's pregnant?

You are not alone in this situation. The two of you can get through this. She needs you now more than ever and is going through many changes right now.  An unplanned pregnancy can leave you both feeling scared, anxious, overwhelmed, upset and powerless in a culture that says, "It's her choice, not yours." 

The truth is, any decision about the baby affects all of you.

It’s vitally important that you provide her with support and encouragement - emotionally and physically. Here are some tips on how you do this.Be there for her, talk with her and listen to her.  Keep the lines of communication open between the two of you!  Do not close yourself off emotionally because this situation involves more than just you!Decide to take responsibility and show her how important she is to you.  Embrace becoming a father. 

Determine to know the facts, educate yourself, and share with her what you have learned.  

Dedicate yourself to supporting her and becoming the best dad and partner/husband you can be.  Be a voice in her choice and for your baby; listen well with gentleness and respect. 

Talk with and seek advice from people you trust and who care.  It’s important to talk about the situation with parents and others who will be directly affected. Keeping this a secret will not ease the stress, but will only add to it – yours and hers.

Be honest with her and yourself, and share how you feel.  You may be surprised at how much this will encourage her to know that you share the same concerns. You’ll be surprised at what you learn, not only about her, but also about yourself.

Show her how much you will be there for her, that you're committed and will support her.